Category: Child Custody
9.17.24
Category: Child Custody
Written by Olivia St. Clair Long on 11.19.24
The holiday season is often a time for family gatherings, traditions, and creating memories with loved ones. However, for parents who have to navigate custody and visitation schedules, the holidays can bring unique challenges. Coordinating time so children can celebrate with both parents often requires careful planning. Finding a balance that respects each parent’s holiday traditions while honoring established custody arrangements and prioritizing the children’s well-being and happiness, can feel overwhelming and even impossible during the hectic holiday season. That is why open communication and thoughtful scheduling can help reduce stress, prevent conflicts, and ensure that the holidays remain a positive experience for the entire family.
Here are some important things to know when adjusting custody and visitation schedules to make the holidays smoother and more enjoyable for everyone involved.
One of our favorite judges used to have a plaque on the bench that said, “Christmas is not an emergency.” The sooner you begin discussing holiday plans with your co-parent, the better. Early communication allows both parents to voice their preferences and work together to find a schedule that accommodates everyone’s needs. Having this discussion in October or even earlier can reduce last-minute conflicts and make the season more enjoyable for the whole family.
Before making any adjustments, revisit your current custody or visitation agreement. Some agreements already outline holiday schedules, specifying which parent has the children on certain holidays or setting up a rotating schedule. If your agreement includes these provisions, use them as a foundation and decide if you need any temporary adjustments based on this year’s specific plans.
While coordinating holiday schedules, always keep the children’s best interests at the forefront. Consistency and stability are crucial, so try to create a schedule that allows your children to enjoy time with both parents without feeling rushed or stressed. If your children are old enough, consider asking for their input to ensure they feel included in the plans.
The holiday season can include unique events such as family gatherings, holiday parties, or religious celebrations that don’t always fall on set dates. If possible, allow for some flexibility to accommodate special events on each side of the family. This might mean swapping certain days or extending visitation times, so both parents can enjoy memorable moments with the children.
If you and your co-parent agree to modify the schedule for the holiday season, it’s wise to put these adjustments in writing. A written agreement helps prevent misunderstandings or disputes and provides both parents with clear terms they can refer back to if needed. Your attorney can help draft or review the document to ensure it aligns with any existing custody arrangement.
If you and your co-parent are struggling to agree on a holiday schedule, consider consulting a family law attorney for guidance. An attorney can provide clarity on how to proceed if you’re having difficulty negotiating changes or if you need to make more formal adjustments to your custody agreement.
Adjusting custody and visitation schedules around the holidays requires patience, empathy, and a willingness to work together. With the right approach, you can create a plan that balances family traditions and respects each parent’s time with the children, setting the stage for a holiday season filled with joy and positive memories.
At O. Long Law, LLC we’re here to support you through all aspects of family law, including helping you navigate custody adjustments for the holiday season. Contact us today to discuss your options and ensure that your family’s holiday arrangements meet everyone’s needs.